What if...

The "What if.." question sometimes gave me lots of headache. That is why, I stopped doing this stupid question. Recently, almost for a year now, I kept asking my self this "What if" question. Also, almost every month this question accured. What if I had another child. Lots and more and more people kept telling me, that Leia needs a friend, well, a friend to grow up with. She has lots of friends, friends that she will grow up with. And recently, we have been really close to the "Sapta" family, and almost everyday, I (OK my driver) pick up Ray and Leia together, dropped Ray in his house, Leia got lunch in there, they played for a bit, before Leia went home. She has a great friend and family to grow up with. And another question raise up, until when? Because if she had sibling, it would be forever? but would it be? I mean, yes, she will spend a great years, with a sibling, but as she grew up and had her own life, her sibling would do the same thing. They will end up living in the different country, and spend the rest of her life again, ALONE! well, she can chit chat like my sister and I do, but just for the rest of her life.

I have not spent my life together with my little sister for almost 18 years, apart from each other. It doesn't drive us apart though, we look up of each other.

Anyway, I can not imagine having two children, except for the one that already here, I mean if I have to take of Kirana, i won't mind at all, but to get pregnant and have to do the entire baby process thing, I don't think I would do it.

So, what if...do I want to? do I ready? I guess not huh?

A Cup of Tea

This was my assistant's idea to do some sensory activity and make an arts activity from the tea leaves. The children were happy to feel the tea leaves, smell the scent of it, and played with it for a while. Then we gave each of them the bear, (we are into the Brown bear, Brown bear, what do you see?), spread the glue into it, and sprinkled some tea leaves over it. The result: A very nice brown bear, and the children were practicing their sensory (touch different things, soft and rough at the same time) and the sense of smell. At the end, we put the tea leaves in the water, and watched the water turn brown. All my student are 18 mos to 2 years old.

Leia's Theory

This morning, Leia came down with high fever. She ate her Nasi Goreng with eggs for breakfast, drank her hot tea, and hug me. I felt that she was a bit warm. As the day went by, her fever was getting higher, so I decided to give her an ibuprofen. After a while, she told me that she felt better. She said, "I feel better mama, now I am ready for a swim!" I said, "I don't think so Leia, you just got down from a high fever!" And Leia said, "See mama, my body is/was sooo hot, but the water is so cold, and it will take a way the hotness in my body!" I thought, what a cool idea came from a 4 years old. And my dad was there and said, "She had pulled all knowledge and science that she knew and for a 4 years old, I said, she can swim!!!" I smiled, and thought, okay then, she needs to test on her theory, otherwise she won't know. I need to respect her theory as she respects mine (sometime she just believed what I said) So, I said, ,"Fine let's swim!"

We swam for about 15 minutes, yes, in the pool of icy water, we were in ciawi, but it was great! Leia was happy. After swimming, she took a bath, and fell asleep, as my mother rubbed her back.

She was still in high fever though after that, but she needed to know whether her own theory worked. And she said (laying in the bed, still with fever), "When I swam mama, I did not have fever right mama? The cold water took it!" I said, "Yes, Leia, but you can not spend forever in the pool right?" She smiled..."I had fun today mama!" I smiled..."Then, That's all matter to me..."

www.tayadabatik.com

I just have to remember today, I woke up, and before I made my cup of coffee, my laptop was on, and I saw, www.tayadabatik.com is up and running. I smiled, and thanked God, that I have such a wonderful husband who cares enough (yes, I begged, like I never begged before) to make such a wonderful website. So, Thank you, it was so sweet yet simple, it is from your heart to mine.

After A Box of Chocolates

"A Box of Chocolates" a book on parenting by Hanna Carol.

I just need to write this, just to remind myself about little things like:

We all leave marks in our children's soul.

There will be our fingerprints all over their lives.

It could be an encouraging words, appreciation or support,

There are precious fingerprints that they will keep and

cherish as long as they live.

In contrary,

Our words of condemnation, our harsh punishment,

our ignorance or maybe our absence, might be an

agonizing fingerprint that they wish to get rid of.

Those fingerprints will stay forever in

our children's lives. So, let us be wise about it.